What Will Your Kids Be When They Grow Up?

I have often wondered that about "Z". I actually worry about what and where he will be. What I mean by that is, the ADHD and auditory hallucination are both managable with medication. What about the rest of it? The oppositional defiance disorder, the lying and he has done some stealing. There are some days I just want to scream. But worst of all I am afraid for his future.

Yesterday we went to an out patient treatment center for intake into a intensive counseling program. He will start going 5 days a week 3 to 4 hours a day. If his clinician feels he he working with the program, it will be cut back to 3 days a week. He starts today! I have to say he was very open minded about going, he was not resistant to being there and even gave a list of things that he would like to work on. I thing being positive is the first step to being successful.

Family history is very limited, as both his father and I are adopted. I have a brother who is my biological brother. He had severe issues growing up. So bad infact he was taken out of the home when I was 11 and never came back. My parents tried really hard to help him achieve his goal of returning home, he just never had the drive for himself.

My biological father had issues of his own. Much that I don't know about and maybe don't want to. They say hi are from the cored being around his neck during child birth blocking oxygen to his brain. I am not so sure of that, seeing as my brother and even my own son seem to have the same issues as him.

I spoke with "Z's" grandfather last night about "Z's" dad. I have not spoken with him in over 3 years. Papa said that his father had ADHD and ODD. Now this is were the fear comes in.

As an adult my brother has pretty much got himself together. He has a good job and 3 kids. He was married but his wife had her own demons that took over her life. He has all 3 of the kids, goes to work and is a productive member of society.

"Z's" dad is far from that. He has been in jail for domestic violence, drinking and driving and least of the issues, non payment of child support. He abuses his wife, he can't hold a job, has attempted suicide and just an over all bundle of issues. I am just happy most of that started after we were done.

So the long and short of it, I just want my son to be the best he can be and I will do what it takes to help him achieve his highest potential.