Out of No Where

So my ceel phone has been busy the last few days. Call are coming in left and right from the long, lost parent and his wife.. That's right, Z's Dad and stepmom have decided once again that maybe Z should be a part of thier lives.

It all started with a call about Z's birthday, he is turning 13 in ten days (oof, already?) and we are haveing a party for him and I thought it would be appropriate for his sister's to be there. I never expected it to turn into much more than that, but it has.

I was talking with his father on Tuesday, who apparently has alot to say cause he decided that we need to sit down and talk this weekend. While I was on the phone with him, his wife calls. She called to ask if Z could go with the girls and have a family photo done with them! Holy shit (really my first thought) this is a completly new revalation. He has never been included in the picture with the girls, not one! So, I told her I would call back, I was on the other line. I spoke with his dad some more and we decided that we would sit down and chat. Quite honestly, I wanted to ask if she was feeling okay!

I called C (stepmom) back and we talked for a little while and I expressed my feeling about the 3 years (atleast) of lost time. We agreed that even though alot has happened that for Z's sake we needed to out the past behind us and move on. I explained that it will not be that easy for Z, that he is the one who has been most hurt by this situation and that they will need to sit down, talk with him and that an apology is due and most nessacary!

If you remember, Z's dad did not speak to him on Christmas Eve and I think that Z was hiding the pain. He was given and opprotunity to talk with his dad and he said no! I sat down and talked with Z and explained that if he really wanted to have a relationship with him, he needed to atleast start talking over the phone. I was very proud of him, last night he did talk to his dad, alot of joking, nothing serious, but I certainly expect A (dad) to man up and apologize to Z. My son has been very angry with his dad and he should not just sweep it under the carpet!

So after atleast a 3 year absense, Dad has stormed into Z's life!